When a dating website appears to be, well, by default, a "normal" dating website - which means that people who are looking for boy friend-girl friend relationships, you would hope that your common sense would match up with your, well, "date." Unfortunately, I had to learn the extremely difficult way that it is never the case.
Some smart girls (sorry, the gender can be reversed) have their own set of rules such as;
- I will never meet a guy unless I talk to him on the phone
- Before we meet in person, we have to do this this and that
-The person has to be at least this tall or this thin or whatever to be even qualified for a first date
That's all good. But it has nothing to do with your sanity filter. Whatever rules you have to be selective, nothing will really protect you from unpleasant anomalies.
Here are some types of guys you will run into.
1. Oh baby, me so horny!
I only exchanged a phone number with a guy and when we finally talked over the phone for about 10 seconds, he had a bad reception. Which was not a problem since the world was not going to end the next day.
About ten minutes later, I get a text from this guy.
"Sorry, bad reception. Wanna come over?"
What do you reply to that?
"Oh, I would love to. But I don't know where you live."
........Seriously.
Either he got me mixed up with someone else, or... he thought he was on let's get laid tonight dot com.
2. Hopelessly romantic
Of course, meeting those "I am feeling lucky tonight" guys is not that rare. But again, there are websites specifically made for that purpose. Strangely enough, something like let's get laid tonight dot com is totally free. The websites that are made for those who are looking to meet their significant others charge money for membership. So, I don't understand why those guys are paying money to get laid on dating websites. I suppose it doesn't cost much to get laid if you are, well, "feeling lucky."
On the other hand, there are other extreme losers/weirdos who will "fall in love with you" before they even meet you in person.
Love at first sight is such a romantic concept. I do believe that it is possible, and I will be very happy if it actually happens to me.
I suppose it's possible that you are extremely excited or interested in meeting someone because of the person's traits. It's, however, not any more than falling in love with a movie star. Even if you are in love with the person, telling the person that you are in love with him/her is a big no no.
I "almost" met a guy who got upset with me for not returning his text message within 2 hours. I never even met him, and he said "whoever the guy you ended up meeting instead of me, I hope he is making you happy." That obviously freaked me out, so I stopped talking to him. He sent me over ten emails, and the last one I got from him only contained one (not quite) sentence: "The love of my life..."
I also "almost" met a guy who insisted having our first date ON MY BIRTHDAY, and when I said no, he wrote a long email stating that I "broke his heart." His occupation (according to what he told me) was a couples counseling therapist. I wish him (and his patients) the best luck.
3. Frog rapist
Those types share some characteristics with the type 1. He maybe is looking for a real relationship/love, but if he runs into someone just hot enough but anything more than that, he will try to say anything to get into her pants.
Remember you have to kiss many frogs to meet your prince? This guy will just rape the frogs instead of even kissing them. Be aware.
4. Baggage.
Can't add you on facebook? Can't tell you what his plans are for the weekend or any other day? Can text you at night but never receives your calls? Think again.
Did he say he is divorced? But, are you sure?
I once met a guy who said he was divorced for over a year. He was living in another state at that time, and said he will be moving to my area within a month or two. We exchanged emails/text messages and we even talked few times over the phone before we met. I thought it would be a good chance to "get to know him better."
I went on few dates with him and added him on facebook. He had no problem adding me.
Ok, so I must admit that he was hot enough to make out, and I liked him a little. Before I even read his posts on the wall, he was wearing a wedding ring on his profile photo.
On his wall, he was telling all of his friends that he will be in California for three month. Really? Did you really have to pursue me for that long if you just wanted to get laid for three months? If not, what is your purpose?
Few months before that, he had a business trip to the city in California. A girl who has the same last name as his wrote on this wall that she is jealous that he is in California. He said, "our future vacation?"
I had to confront him and he sounded very annoyed that I was even asking him those questions. Really now?
Maybe some girls are ok with a guy being "vaguely" divorced. Maybe some girls are ok with a guy who just wants a fling. (A determined fling, no matter what!) Should I not feel so bad about the fact that, at least he was not wearing his wedding ring when he was making out with me? What else can I tell myself to recover from this?
Seriously, if you want to look better than who you really are, then please be good at hiding your baggage. Is that too much to ask?
Some smart girls (sorry, the gender can be reversed) have their own set of rules such as;
- I will never meet a guy unless I talk to him on the phone
- Before we meet in person, we have to do this this and that
-The person has to be at least this tall or this thin or whatever to be even qualified for a first date
That's all good. But it has nothing to do with your sanity filter. Whatever rules you have to be selective, nothing will really protect you from unpleasant anomalies.
Here are some types of guys you will run into.
1. Oh baby, me so horny!
I only exchanged a phone number with a guy and when we finally talked over the phone for about 10 seconds, he had a bad reception. Which was not a problem since the world was not going to end the next day.
About ten minutes later, I get a text from this guy.
"Sorry, bad reception. Wanna come over?"
What do you reply to that?
"Oh, I would love to. But I don't know where you live."
........Seriously.
Either he got me mixed up with someone else, or... he thought he was on let's get laid tonight dot com.
2. Hopelessly romantic
Of course, meeting those "I am feeling lucky tonight" guys is not that rare. But again, there are websites specifically made for that purpose. Strangely enough, something like let's get laid tonight dot com is totally free. The websites that are made for those who are looking to meet their significant others charge money for membership. So, I don't understand why those guys are paying money to get laid on dating websites. I suppose it doesn't cost much to get laid if you are, well, "feeling lucky."
On the other hand, there are other extreme losers/weirdos who will "fall in love with you" before they even meet you in person.
Love at first sight is such a romantic concept. I do believe that it is possible, and I will be very happy if it actually happens to me.
I suppose it's possible that you are extremely excited or interested in meeting someone because of the person's traits. It's, however, not any more than falling in love with a movie star. Even if you are in love with the person, telling the person that you are in love with him/her is a big no no.
I "almost" met a guy who got upset with me for not returning his text message within 2 hours. I never even met him, and he said "whoever the guy you ended up meeting instead of me, I hope he is making you happy." That obviously freaked me out, so I stopped talking to him. He sent me over ten emails, and the last one I got from him only contained one (not quite) sentence: "The love of my life..."
I also "almost" met a guy who insisted having our first date ON MY BIRTHDAY, and when I said no, he wrote a long email stating that I "broke his heart." His occupation (according to what he told me) was a couples counseling therapist. I wish him (and his patients) the best luck.
3. Frog rapist
Those types share some characteristics with the type 1. He maybe is looking for a real relationship/love, but if he runs into someone just hot enough but anything more than that, he will try to say anything to get into her pants.
Remember you have to kiss many frogs to meet your prince? This guy will just rape the frogs instead of even kissing them. Be aware.
4. Baggage.
Can't add you on facebook? Can't tell you what his plans are for the weekend or any other day? Can text you at night but never receives your calls? Think again.
Did he say he is divorced? But, are you sure?
I once met a guy who said he was divorced for over a year. He was living in another state at that time, and said he will be moving to my area within a month or two. We exchanged emails/text messages and we even talked few times over the phone before we met. I thought it would be a good chance to "get to know him better."
I went on few dates with him and added him on facebook. He had no problem adding me.
Ok, so I must admit that he was hot enough to make out, and I liked him a little. Before I even read his posts on the wall, he was wearing a wedding ring on his profile photo.
On his wall, he was telling all of his friends that he will be in California for three month. Really? Did you really have to pursue me for that long if you just wanted to get laid for three months? If not, what is your purpose?
Few months before that, he had a business trip to the city in California. A girl who has the same last name as his wrote on this wall that she is jealous that he is in California. He said, "our future vacation?"
I had to confront him and he sounded very annoyed that I was even asking him those questions. Really now?
Maybe some girls are ok with a guy being "vaguely" divorced. Maybe some girls are ok with a guy who just wants a fling. (A determined fling, no matter what!) Should I not feel so bad about the fact that, at least he was not wearing his wedding ring when he was making out with me? What else can I tell myself to recover from this?
Seriously, if you want to look better than who you really are, then please be good at hiding your baggage. Is that too much to ask?
